Male Sexual Problems -

- and what to do about them!

Welcome to a discussion of male sexual problems and what you can do about them!

Our experienced sexual therapists summarize the principle points of each of the three major male sexual dysfunctions and offer suggestions about how you can treat these conditions yourself at home.

The three major sexual dysfunctions for men are premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and delayed ejaculation.

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Obesity and Sex

You know, there's nothing more destructive to a good sex life than being overweight. Well, of course that's an exaggeration because if a guy can't get it up (or ejaculates before he gets into his partner), then a couple don;t even have much of a sex life to even consider.

But among all the problems that can affect sex, being obese is a pretty serious one. Morbidly obese people are in fact 25 times more likely to report problems with their sex life, as reported by, than normal weight people.

And it turns out this is a much greater problem than anybody expected before the research had been conducted.

Martin Binks, a psychologist at the Duke University Medical Center, makes the observation that this is a difficult topic for anyone to talk about. And so it should be too - it's shrouded in shame. You see, being overweight isn't just physical issue, it's a deeply psychological issue.

There are all kinds of reasons why people are overweight, including a desire to protect themselves from psychological wounds, a self soothing behavior, our fundamental lack of self appreciation and good self-image, and so on.

You can imagine that none of these issues are going to help somebody have a good quality of sex life.fat women have more sexual dysfunction

And you would be right: 920 obese men and women, seeking treatment for their obesity, completed questionnaires about very different aspects of their sexuality how much they enjoyed sex, how much desire they had, what difficulties they had, and how much they avoided sexual encounters.

65% of people in the treatment group had significant sexual problems, but only 5% of normal weight people reported similar difficulties.

These problems were mostly about desiring sex (52%), closely followed by performance problems (43%) and avoidance of sex (42%). This compares with only 2% of the population of the normal weight group who had functional problems, and 3% who avoided sex.

Needless to say, in a situation like this you not going to enjoy sex very much and it's absolutely true: there is 10 times less enjoyment of sex among obese people than there is among people whose weight is normal.

Now whether you feel sympathy or not for grossly obese people or morbidly obese people, the truth is that they deserve compassion when they're out in the world, because they become easily defined by their weight due to  societal prejudice.

And of course, as is clearly obvious, simply losing weight for example by using a diet like the Venus Factor may not be the answer to their perceptual problems, because the fundamental cause of gross obesity is really around body image and self-esteem.

The good thing, I suppose, is that it's being addressed at last, and that people who are obese can work on solving their sexual problems, at least by discussing them with people in a similar situation.

You see, even the opening out of a discussion can be enormously helpful, because it promotes a more open attitude to both obesity and sexual difficulties.

At the end of the day, however, the fact remains that morbidly obese people need to develop an attitude to sex and life in general which is both more self affirming, and more powerful - that is to say, more powerful in the sense of the person concerned moving to take greater control of their own life.


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